Narcissistic Abuse Quiz2026-02-03T12:21:54+11:00
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Have I Been Affected By a Narcissist? Take the Narcissistic Abuse Quiz

 

The after-effects of a toxic relationship often linger long after it’s over, leaving you wondering, “am I a victim of a narcissist?” Taking this free Narcissistic Abuse Quiz is your first step to gaining clarity on how narcissistic behaviour, past or present, may be affecting your life.

So, What Is a Narcissist?

A narcissist is someone who lacks empathy and has an excessive need for admiration, attention or control. While some narcissists are overtly arrogant, many are covert narcissists whose need for attention is disguised as a victim complex or a constant need for reassurance.

Narcissists often use manipulative tactics like gaslighting to make you doubt your reality. This is why you may find yourself constantly feeling guilty or like you’re walking on eggshells. Over time this dynamic can also lead to co-dependency, where you feel an intense need to please them to maintain your self-worth.

Many of my clients who experienced codependent relationships tell me they found themselves with an overwhelming sense of responsibility for managing the narcissist’s emotions and moods. This constant focus was why their relationship had an incredibly unbalanced and harmful dynamic that left them feeling completely drained. Perhaps you have experienced something similar?

Man showing emotional distress after narcissistic relationship, signs of narcissistic abuse.

What Are the Signs of Narcissistic Abuse?

The signs of narcissistic abuse are often subtle and can become your new normal. If you’ve been feeling off, here are some of the subtle emotional abuse signs you may be experiencing.

1. You constantly second-guess yourself and your decisions.

2. You feel drained after spending time with certain people.

3. You feel like you’re constantly apologising for things that aren’t your fault.

4. You keep asking, “Why can’t I get over my ex?” even when you know you should.

5. You’ve lost a clear sense of who you are or what you truly want, and you’re not sure how to get it back.

Ready to Take the Narcissistic Abuse Quiz?

If the signs you’ve read so far feel all too familiar, and you’re ready to gain a deeper understanding of your experience, this quiz is for you. It’s a quick and easy way to get immediate clarity on just how much you have been affected by the narcissists in your life.

Once you’ve taken it, come right back to this page and read on to interpret what your results mean.

Your Narcisstic Abuse Quiz Results: What They Mean

Congratulations on completing the quiz! Taking this first step is a powerful move toward self-awareness and healing. Your answers reveal how deeply a narcissistic influence may still be affecting your life. Below, you’ll see what your results mean based on the letter you chose most often…

  • Mostly As : Fully Free
    You’ve moved past the narcissist’s influence and rebuilt trust in yourself. Your confidence, boundaries, and decision-making feel strong again. This is a great place to be. Keep protecting it by staying alert to red flags so no one is ever able to pull you back into those old patterns.

  • Mostly Bs : Mostly Recovered
    You’ve done a lot of healing work and it shows. There are only occasional moments when the past shakes your confidence or triggers old patterns. Addressing those final traces now can help you feel truly unshakable in your boundaries and self-worth.

  • Mostly Cs : In Recovery
    You’re aware of the impact the narcissist had, and you’re actively working to undo it. You have moments of strength and clarity, but the past still sneaks in – especially in how you see yourself and trust others. This is a key turning point where the right approach can help you break through the last barriers and feel free again.

  • Mostly Ds : Strong Hold

    The narcissist’s voice still lingers in your thoughts, shaping your self-worth and decisions more than you’d like. You may find yourself second-guessing, over-apologising, or avoiding situations where you could shine. Left unaddressed, these patterns can quietly hold back your confidence, relationships, and opportunities for years – even when the narcissist is long gone.

  • Mostly Es : Deeply Affected
    The after-effects of narcissistic abuse are still very present. It’s likely impacting your confidence, relationships, boundaries, and ability to trust your own judgement. If nothing changes, the narcissist’s influence can keep shaping your future just as much as your past. Addressing this is about reclaiming your self-worth, restoring your freedom, and ensuring they no longer have a hold over your life.

Your Next Step to Healing: A Path to Breakthrough Recovery

You took a brave step today by seeking clarity, and I want to congratulate you for that. Now that you have a deeper understanding of your situation, the next step is about turning that awareness into real, lasting change.

I specialise in breakthrough narcissistic abuse recovery coaching because I know the pain of feeling stuck. I help people like you take the next step on their journey. My goal is to help you heal and move forward much faster than you expected.

If you’re ready to explore what a faster, more effective path to healing could look like, I invite you to book a free Clarity Call with me. This is a supportive chat where we can:

  • Talk about your specific quiz results and what’s on your mind.
  • Identify the one thing that will make the biggest difference in your healing right now.
  • Leave you with a clear sense of direction and hope.

This call is for you if you’re ready to:

  • Turn your awareness from the quiz into a clear path forward.
  • Stop feeling held back by the past and start making progress.
  • Explore a tangible strategy for your breakthrough and full recovery.

 

Your Clarity Call is the easiest way for you to get the answers you need to start moving forward. I look forward to speaking with you soon.

Fiona

Fiona Spence Career and Life Coach Portrait with Bike

MBA, BA(Hons), Certified Coach
Learn more about me and my qualifications here.

My Story: How a “Narc Magnet” Got Her Life Back

-Meet Fiona Spence,  Your Narcissitic Abuse Recovery Coach

I know exactly what you’re going through because I’ve been there myself. My journey to becoming a coach didn’t start in a book; it began in my own life. I grew up with a narcissistic parent and later found myself in a series of similar relationships, at work and in my personal life. For a long time, I couldn’t figure out why I was always attracting the same kind of difficult, self-centred, judgmental people. I began to feel like a “narc magnet.” I felt like if there was a narcissist around they’d find me!

That feeling of being stuck on a carousel of toxic relationships was my breaking point. It was the moment I decided to draw a line in the sand and no longer accept my situation. I committed to making a change. I started to work on myself, on my mindset, and on understanding the psychological patterns and dynamics of narcissistic abuse.

Ultimately, not only did that commitment mean I could finally have my own breakthrough and break free, but I could also help others do the same. My experience isn’t just my story; it’s my superpower as a coach. I know what it takes to get from where you are to where you want to be, and I would love to help you create your own breakthrough.

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Regain Your Life after Narcissistic Abuse

With numerous 5-star reviews, I’ve had the privilege of guiding many individuals through transformative breakthrough coaching sessions.

Here’s are Samuel and David’s stories. Samuel experienced complex PTSD from a childhood with numerous abusers. In one coaching session, he let go of the trauma. David, released negative beliefs he had carried since his childhood, enabling him to move on and experience joy and success in his life.

If you are ready to let go of past abuse and enjoy your life again, please do reach out to me. I’d love to support you.

“Top of her field!”

I have worked with many coaches and have found Fiona to be at the top of her field. Fiona has an extensive tool kit of tricks (all good!) to help you remove emotional blocks, get past the excuses and achieve goals. I highly recommend her.

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Gayl Chivers

Learning & Leadership Consultant, Greater Brisbane

“She Empowers You”

When I met Fiona, I genuinely loved what I do, but I was exhausted. I was not coping with the pressure I’d put on myself to be everything to everyone (but myself). She immediately helped shift my mindset into a more effective space. She empowers you with the knowledge and tools you need to conquer your ‘thing’, and deliver the greatest, long-term impact. Six months on and I am so proud of the version of ‘me’ that I have grown into. I am more effective overall — a better founder, creative, mentor, friend, daughter, and partner. I have a clearer vision of my future, and what exactly is driving the legacy that I want to build.

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Kathleen Casford

Founder of By Ninja, Pottsville NSW

“Best coach I ever had!”

Fiona was the best coach, mentor, and trainer I ever had. She always encouraged me, helped me gain clarity and direction, and provided great strategies. She has a wealth of knowledge about business and life and I loved how she used stories to explain concepts. It really helped me to see things from different perspectives. If you want to be your best self Fiona will definitely help you achieve your goals.

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Olamide Adewole

Engineer, Melbourne

“She always believes in you”

Fiona is one of the most inspiring people I have met. She makes you feel like she always believes in you and that you can achieve anything you set your heart and mind to. Fiona is very open, honest and approachable. She never judges you but instead helps you see things from new and different angles. I loved the tools and techniques she shared with me and if you haven’t already connected with Fiona I strongly recommend you do.

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Karina Landim

Master of Computer Information Systems, New York

“Invaluable”

Fiona is a very talented mentor and presenter, and her help was invaluable not only to open my own business in Australia, but also to gain the confidence I needed at that moment to get started. Thanks, Fiona!

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Reginald Nepomuceno

Marketing Officer at The University of Queensland

“A Genuine Game-Changer”

Working with Fiona Spence as my life coach was truly transformative. Her approach to Advanced Conversational Hypnosis differed from my expectations; instead of a traditional technique, we engaged in a conversation that unveiled the power of my subconscious mind and its role in achieving my goals. Fiona’s professional yet deeply empathetic manner created a safe and supportive environment, starting with small steps and celebrating each success. This experience has given me the confidence to navigate challenges and build momentum in my life. I’m grateful for Fiona’s expertise in Advanced Conversational Hypnosis – a genuine game-changer.

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Basil Mabuza

Manger, Sydney

“Non-judgemental”

I never expected to see results after just one session of coaching. But after a 50-minute session with Fiona I had made my mind up on a decision I had been debating for months. Within 24 hours I had taken action and was making progress towards my goals. I am now more self-aware than ever before, I have knowledge about myself that will help me find joy in all areas of life.

This is all thanks to the power of coaching and Fiona’s ability to pick up on what you are really saying, not the BS you are telling yourself. Her non-judgemental, action-orientated approach will leave you motivated and ready to make lasting change in your life.

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Steph Welch

Marketing and Design, Storrington, England

“Crumbling under pressure”

I was struggling with the business and we had just switched from being a startup to scale up. Days had become endless, I was exhausted and not feeling like I was making an impact on the business.

With Fiona, we uncovered the issues that were holding me back and came up with appropriate solutions to them. She helped me see what makes me tick and to use that to better navigate the chaos of life. I sleep soundly at the end of each day, am content, can point to the value that energy has created and love watching the business grow. If anyone needs any help with their mindset, career or any part of their life, I would definitely recommend!

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William Ferguson

Owner of Wireless Timings, Brisbane Qld

“I am finally at peace with who I am”

After our session had finished, I felt much more relaxed and confident than I had in years. A wonderful peaceful feeling of being deeply connected with myself. This created a calm yet strong feeling of a more relaxed and certain mindset for myself.

Since our session I have retained this strong belief in myself and I no longer feel the need to seek approval from others. A key moment for me was when a good friend commented it was great to see me looking so confident. I can definitely say as a result of the wonderful session and experience I had with Fiona I am finally at peace with who I am.

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Tony Schaufelberger

Director of Quiet Confidence Auckland, NZ

“Gained a New Lease of Life for my Business”

I have in last 4 weeks taken Fiona on as my mindset coach. I have always understood the importance of having your mindset steadfast and focused if you wish to be successful and create results. Yet, I kept falling back into the negative and self-limiting behaviours. Fiona is keeping me accountable, focused and steadfast on my goals and self-belief. I cannot believe how in just a few short weeks I have transformed. I am so pumped, excited and have found a new lease of life for my business. I can’t wait to see where I will be in another 4 weeks, 4 months, 4 years from now. Thank you Fiona

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Heidi Strohschon

Owner of Healthy Bones, Stafford, Brisbane

“Cuts through the BS!”

Fiona is also an inspiring and motivating speaker and thought leader who draws on her years of martial arts practice being able to share tools and tips to help you win in this game called life. Working with Fiona is a mixture of pleasure, learning, insight and even at times, tough love. Fiona is extremely approachable and empathetic yet manages to cut through the b***s*** to tell it like it is. Some life coaches are really good at making it look like they are listening, Fiona really does. She helps you break free of what it is that’s blocking you, and builds motivation to get you moving again.  If you haven’t already met Fiona I highly recommend you pick up the phone and give her a call. She is really welcoming and easy to talk to.

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Graeme Thom AFSM

CEO of GT&Associates Pty Ltd, Auckland, Canberra, Brisbane

“Knowledgeable, Positive and Motivational”

Fiona has been outstanding over the past few months! In February, I reached out to her because I was having trouble finding direction in my career and was feeling stuck in personal situations. Thanks to Fiona’s expertise and psychological background, I was able to decide on the right pathway and to also be able overcome personal challenges.

Fiona is extremely knowledgeable, positive and motivational, and I can’t thank her enough for her service.

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Jamie Pear

Solution Engineer, Brisbane Qld

“Great Leadership Coaching”

I commenced working with Fiona as part of our company leadership development program and was surprised by the simple practicality of  her approach. Prior to working with Fiona, I was overwhelmed, not effectively managing the influx of demands.  This, in turn, was affecting my general health and well-being in addition to productivity.

Fiona has helped me significantly and offered effective tools for clarifying priorities, scheduling & organisation, and People management. I’m now more intentional and outcome-focused.  and find the load more manageable, irrespective of the continued demands. I have very much appreciated Fiona’s approach and would certainly recommend her coaching services.

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Tim Reynolds

Building Services BIM Manager, CES, Hobart

“Get Impactful Results”

If you’re looking for a fresh take on business and leadership coaching with real results Fiona has you covered.

Her Manager as Coach Training and the coaching itself has been a pivot point for moving when I felt stuck. This style of coaching is the gift that keeps giving as you unlock more than you bargained for.

I recommend Fiona and this style of coaching for anyone who is ready to improve as a coach or just wants to experience impactful results in their life, career or business.

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Jenna Pleavin

Salon Owner, Biloela, QLD

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Take the First Step Towards Freedom and Getting Your Life Back

You’ve taken the Narcissistic Abuse Test,  which is a great first step. I know how trying to heal from narcissistic abuse on your own can feel impossible, leaving you exhausted and stuck.

Why not take the next step and jump on a free Breakthrough Clarity Call with me.  It’s a safe, confidential space where you can get the direct support and guidance you need to learn how to finally break the cycle. I know how much courage it takes to reach out, and I would be honoured to help you take that next step towards reclaiming your life.

-Fiona

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